Thursday, May 27, 2010

Would you treat your dog that way?

I'm not perfect nor do I claim to be. Let's just get that out there first and foremost. I screw up from time to time. I'm human. I'm fallible. I'm just me. I've learned that there are people who believe I'm someone who does not have feelings. Someone who is supposed to not let things bother me. Just put a smile on and take whatever words or actions are thrown my way. I am not allowed to get upset. Really??? I didn't know that I was a Stepford. Someone failed to send that memo my way.

I used to have a friend whom I loved almost more than life itself. I tolerated and put up with his poor treatment of me and my feelings for years. Making plans with me and then cancelling at the last minute. Saying he would call and then not. He was really good at making plans with me and then not even showing up. I accepted that from him for a hell of a long time because I loved him. Last year I finally found my balls and told him I was done. I deserved so much more from a friend than what he was giving me. I ended the friendship. I had to think more of myself than the limited friendship he was offering me. Hurt like an SOB but it had to be done.

There are still people in my life who don't take my feelings into consideration. I'm supposed to sit back, let them say what they believe is to be right for me and not speak my thoughts or opinions. When I'm upset or feeling blue I get the "There are others out there who have it worse." No kidding there are but does that mean that I'm not allowed to be bothered or upset by something that has happened to me? I'm just supposed to suck it up and pretend life is just rosy perfect? Hate to break it to y'all but my life is not perfect. Far from it. I get upset. I get the blues from time to time. It is because of those feelings that there are times I want to just let loose and have a good time. Apparently I'm not allowed to do that either. I'm to have a "babysitter" and if I do something that they don't deem to be correct I am to leave the place I was having fun at. I am to be humiliated at a later date because of the fun I was having. When I stand up for myself and state that I'm hurt I get the standard "Sorry that hurt you but I'm not sorry for watching out for you". Hmmmmm.....let me see. Watching out for a friend is what friends do. I get that. I do that. BUT...if a friend is doing something really stupid like thinking they are going to drive after drinking, is going to get into a car with someone she doesn't know or something that will endanger her life. If a friend of mine is kissing a guy she just met in a bar it is none of my business to stop her. Hells bells...I'll ask her to see if he has a friend. Who am I to say who she can and cannot kiss or have sex with? A friend and I have said that on the cruise if someone meets a guy then that someone is to let another cruiser know who they are with. We don't want to know the details but we do want to know that they are going to be okay.

I'm just tired of being treated as if I don't have a brain in my head. That I cannot make decisions on my own. I am a 43 year old woman. I have bought a house on my own. I've been at my job for over 5 years. I own my car outright. I have custody of my children and they are taken care of. I pay my bills and always have food in my house. I may not be rich and I do live from paycheck to paycheck. Sometimes funds get low and I have to really suck it up to make it but the fact is...I do make it. I have done this on my own. I am an adult. If I want to fly off to Las Vegas for the weekend with a nice man... I will. If I want to spend the weekend with an ex boyfriend for my birthday...I will. If I want to kiss a man I just met in a bar...I will. I will do what I want when I want. I've earned that right. It is my life. I will live it how I see fit. I may ask for advice from time to time but it will be me who will choose what advice to take and what advice to throw out. I will not apologize for who I am. I am who I am and will change for no one. I will not allow anyone to tell me how to act and how to feel. It's as simple as that. Others can accept that in me or they can't but I won't tolerate being treated as if I'm a simpleton. Period.

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Opinions...everyone's got one

I am just boggled at the way people treat others when someone expresses an opinion. Seriously? Everyone has an opinion. Kinda like a an ass. EVERYONE HAS ONE!!! Today I was reading something about preparing for the cruise and not contracting a cold, flu or some other virus. A doctor had suggested to her that she might want to start taking Emergen-C and get her body virus shield up. Not a bad idea since there are people on a ship from the world over. I have no idea what kind of germies they have in Europe just as the europeans don't know what kind of germies are here in the states. Why not be as prepared as possible? Duh.

Good grief!!! The onslaught that proceeded from just one statement was insane. "Use hand sanitizers. Don't use hand sanitizers. Use soap and water. Don't take that much vitamin C. Do take that much vitamin C. That's not healthy. Not a good idea. You can get sick from that much vitamin C. My family takes vitamin C all of the time. Hand sanitizers aren't good to use." Are you bloody well kidding me??? Hello!!! Every single human body on this big round blue ball has cells within us that are completely totally and 100% different than everyone else. Vitamins effect everyone completely different. Did you know that no two people have the same DNA? Well...maybe twins and multiples but I'm getting off track. Medicines don't always work on everyone. They react in different ways. What may work for me may not work for you. Didn't I mention "duh" earlier?

Advice. That is all this person was giving. What her physician suggested. It was a suggestion but it went all psycho crazy. Is vitamin C good for you? Yes. Are hand sanitizers good? Yes. The thing is...ALL WITHIN REASON!!! Holy crow people. Use your melons. That's why God gave it to you. To think with and use reason.

People have opinions and that is all they are. Opinions. No one is telling anyone what to do, what to take and how to act. Take the opinion. Use what works for you and throw the rest out. It's as simple as that. Don't go all armageddon on someone for offering their opinion and advice.

Friday, May 07, 2010

The hypocrisy is everywhere!!!

Non-Christians judge Christians. Christians judge non-Christians. So tell me...who are the hypocrites here? Every last one of them. I was reading some comments on a fictional book that just so happened to be Christian fiction. I love to read and have read some Christian fiction but this is one that I will not be reading due to personal opinions and reasons. Does either side not grasp the concept that everyone has their own thoughts and their own opinions? When someone voices their opinion on something "Christian" it's as if all of hades has opened up and all of the wrath from that has been poured down upon the person who made their thoughts known. Personally...I believe that "Christians" are the worst offenders out of everyone on this planet.

My view on Christians is that they are the biggest hypocrites of them all. They preach their views and beliefs. Live as they live or you will perish and be sent to the bowels of hell. Seriously? Every religion believes they are right and everyone else is wrong. Give me a freaking break!!! I believe in God. I believe in heaven and hell. I believe in good and evil. There is a right. There is a wrong. There is not one true religion. My honest belief is God hates religion and what humans are doing to His creation is breaking His heart.

I personally have no use for the church and the people who have to preach at me whether that is through sermons, books, television shows or fictional books. They shove their beliefs and views down the throats of people who don't have the same views. God did not create us to be robots. He gave us our own free will to believe how we wish. God is not a dictator. The very people who say that they worship God are the ones who are, in my opinion, hurting the very entity they say they love so much. They are the dictators. They are the holier than thou's.

Everyone, in one way or another, is a hypocrite. At least people who aren't church going don't put their hypocrisy out there for everyone to see. I'm not saying that all Christians are hypocrites. There are a few, and I mean very few, who follow their religion religiously. For the most part the vast majority are hypocrites and bigger liars than anyone in the secular world.

Yes I got on my soapbox today. It just get so old seeing so called "Christians" belittle, demean and in general speak poorly of others who do not follow the doctrine they believe to be right. I have argued with someone I know about Harry Potter and how I do not believe it is bad. She says that it's full of witchcraft and kids should not read that stuff as it can lead them down the wrong path. I told her that if she is going to be against HP then she needs to be against anything that has a witch in it such as Wizard of Oz, Sleeping Beauty, The Little Mermaid, Snow White, etc. She shut up after that but still refuses to have anything to do with HP. See what I mean? Hypocritical.

Anyway...I'm done with the rant. For now. LOL