I learned on Saturday night just how small this town is. Ya'all remember the guy I dated last year (2007) right? Ok...there were two of them. The one I'm talking about here was the last one. R. I won't say his name. I won't smear my blog with his name again. :) Anyway...I have not run into him at all in the last year. That is a lovely thing. Saturday night my lovely moments were not so much a lovely thing. A friend and I decided to go out to Applebee's for appetizers and drinks. They have the most wonderful Pomegranate Margaritas. You should try them. Really...you should. I digress...sorry about that. I got to the restaurant after my friend so I wandered into the dining room and spotted her so what do I do? Well I wander up to her and say HI!!! Not in a quiet way. That is just not me. I'm a boistrous type of person but ya'll already know that right? :)
I sit down and order a drink...Pom Margarita in case you hadn't figured that out yet. All of a sudden, my friend's eyes get huge. I mean HUGE!!! She looks like she had seen a ghost and I thought she had seen a moron she has been kind of seeing since July and been trying to get rid of since August. Nope. I guessed wrong. It was "him". R. Not only was it R but his wife, her parents and his son. Oh you have got to be kidding me!!! Not only did she see them at a table but the table was kitty corner to ours. Lovely.
Despite the urge...I did not turn around. There was not going to be a chance I wanted to look that man in the face. Not after what he did to me. My poor friend had to look at them the whole time. What she told me just about knocked me off of my chair. The wife...who was the ex g/f at the time and lied like there was no tomorrow to get him back...was not quite what my friend had expected. Remember...I have not seen her other than one time when I was still dating R. My friend looked at me and said "She is HUGE!!!". I'm thinking...HUH??? When R got back with this woman he said that she was changing and becoming the woman he wants to be with and is losing weight. Hmmmm...interesting.
Strange as this may seem but there was tension in the air between the tables because even though I did not see them when I walked in...they saw me. Once I knew that they were right behind me...it was a bit uncomfortable. I carried on a conversation with my friend and did my best to ignore the discomfort. I went out to get away from the teen drama occuring at my house and walked right into something that could have been drama filled. I didn't feed into it though. My friend did tell me to look at the wife when they walked out. I did and you could have knocked me over with a feather. She isn't much taller than me but honest to goodness she is as wide as she is tall. I'm not kidding at all with this one. I may embellish sometimes but this time...nope. I am not one to make fun of people who are large. I used to be a large woman myself. No one is perfect and we all have our issues but WOW!!! Honest to goodness...I believe she has gained at least 75 pounds in the past year. I hate to say this but that made my night. Not only did they file for bankruptcy the day after they got married but she has gained a lot weight when she told him she would lose it. Hmmmm....and she doesn't lie? LOL
What does that little scene tell me? That God is watching out for me. He knows what is good for me and what isn't. Even though what R did and the game he played hurt me...it was all for the better. God knew that R wasn't the man for me. God knows better than I do. Sometimes that just bugs me to no end but when things happen like Saturday night...I can't help but thank Him. He stopped my heart from truly being broken and my life being destroyed. I may be alone but I'm alone and happy with my choices and who I am. Life lessons are meant for us to learn about what we want for our lives. They hurt and sometimes bite frozen bananas. In the end...the frozen banana is covered in chocolate and is yummy. :)
I do want to make something crystal clear though. I am in no means making fun of the wife. I won't sink to that level. It's now who I am. What I do want to point out is that Saturday was my full circle for that man. I never got the closure. He refused to ever speak to me once the g/f lied to him. There was no discussion about anything. It was hurtful and cruel. Finding out just what he has gotten into is what I believe to be his "what goes around...comes around". I received a scripture today that really brings this to light. "My experience shows that those who plant trouble and cultivate evil will harvest the same. Job 4:8". No person can treat another human the way he treated me without facing future issues and problems. It's in the Word. There is no avoiding it. I got my closure. I got my peace Saturday night. While it was interesting and did give me a giggle...it was what I needed to finally put that chapter of my life to rest. I no longer have to own it. :)
I sit down and order a drink...Pom Margarita in case you hadn't figured that out yet. All of a sudden, my friend's eyes get huge. I mean HUGE!!! She looks like she had seen a ghost and I thought she had seen a moron she has been kind of seeing since July and been trying to get rid of since August. Nope. I guessed wrong. It was "him". R. Not only was it R but his wife, her parents and his son. Oh you have got to be kidding me!!! Not only did she see them at a table but the table was kitty corner to ours. Lovely.
Despite the urge...I did not turn around. There was not going to be a chance I wanted to look that man in the face. Not after what he did to me. My poor friend had to look at them the whole time. What she told me just about knocked me off of my chair. The wife...who was the ex g/f at the time and lied like there was no tomorrow to get him back...was not quite what my friend had expected. Remember...I have not seen her other than one time when I was still dating R. My friend looked at me and said "She is HUGE!!!". I'm thinking...HUH??? When R got back with this woman he said that she was changing and becoming the woman he wants to be with and is losing weight. Hmmmm...interesting.
Strange as this may seem but there was tension in the air between the tables because even though I did not see them when I walked in...they saw me. Once I knew that they were right behind me...it was a bit uncomfortable. I carried on a conversation with my friend and did my best to ignore the discomfort. I went out to get away from the teen drama occuring at my house and walked right into something that could have been drama filled. I didn't feed into it though. My friend did tell me to look at the wife when they walked out. I did and you could have knocked me over with a feather. She isn't much taller than me but honest to goodness she is as wide as she is tall. I'm not kidding at all with this one. I may embellish sometimes but this time...nope. I am not one to make fun of people who are large. I used to be a large woman myself. No one is perfect and we all have our issues but WOW!!! Honest to goodness...I believe she has gained at least 75 pounds in the past year. I hate to say this but that made my night. Not only did they file for bankruptcy the day after they got married but she has gained a lot weight when she told him she would lose it. Hmmmm....and she doesn't lie? LOL
What does that little scene tell me? That God is watching out for me. He knows what is good for me and what isn't. Even though what R did and the game he played hurt me...it was all for the better. God knew that R wasn't the man for me. God knows better than I do. Sometimes that just bugs me to no end but when things happen like Saturday night...I can't help but thank Him. He stopped my heart from truly being broken and my life being destroyed. I may be alone but I'm alone and happy with my choices and who I am. Life lessons are meant for us to learn about what we want for our lives. They hurt and sometimes bite frozen bananas. In the end...the frozen banana is covered in chocolate and is yummy. :)
I do want to make something crystal clear though. I am in no means making fun of the wife. I won't sink to that level. It's now who I am. What I do want to point out is that Saturday was my full circle for that man. I never got the closure. He refused to ever speak to me once the g/f lied to him. There was no discussion about anything. It was hurtful and cruel. Finding out just what he has gotten into is what I believe to be his "what goes around...comes around". I received a scripture today that really brings this to light. "My experience shows that those who plant trouble and cultivate evil will harvest the same. Job 4:8". No person can treat another human the way he treated me without facing future issues and problems. It's in the Word. There is no avoiding it. I got my closure. I got my peace Saturday night. While it was interesting and did give me a giggle...it was what I needed to finally put that chapter of my life to rest. I no longer have to own it. :)