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Where have I been???

I've not been lurking. Really Nell...I haven't. I've been looking at my house thinking "How in the blazes am I going to get this all packed up???" I know I can do it. I've done it more in my lifetime than I want to think about. In the year and 1/2 I lived with Darren we moved 3 times!!! This isn't new for me!!! I just hate the thought of packing. The moving I'm all for. I need to look at this a different way. Not in a negative manner. I need to view it as a chance to purge all of the crap I own. A fresh start...to collect more crap. :)

I'm in the office today on Martin Luther King day when everyone else has the blinking day off!!! The phone has rang 2 times in the last 3 hours. The furnace that heats the building I'm in is on the fritz. It is Monday. I think that the day needs to end now. I need to warm up!!! Good grief.

The weekend was not a total bust for me. I had a coffee date Friday night. Quite by accident really. I love Craigslist and I found some decor for my kitchen. I met the person who was selling it to me on Friday. A single, 45 year old, very tall and handsome man. Oh...hello!!! I got two for the price of one huh? Only in my world could this happen. The "date" went very well and there are plans for meeting for coffee again. To think...I did not believe there were any good looking men in this horrible little town.

I learned something this weekend. Pay attention to red flags. A man I was interested in showed glaring flags Saturday night and I ended things immediately. He was calling my cell phone every 5 minutes. He was completely drunk and complaining about the DVD he was watching. This was not the first time he has called me while drinking. Once he was at Applebee's and said he was just getting ready to leave after having a drink. Ummm...hang on. He is a cop!!! Saturday night set me over the edge and I told him to never call me again. I do not need to get into a situation like that. See? I've learned. I don't need to settle for any man just because he shows an interest in me. Besides...I prayed asking God that if this man was not the one for me He would show me the way to end it. Most times God shows us things in a whisper. God yelled this time. LOL Thanks to that holler...I'm at peace with my decision. Not even remotely upset. That is definitely a good thing. :)

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