when you need to let go. You can chase someone for years, wanting to build a relationship, repair the damage to the relationship from the past but if that someone doesn't want what you want...why are you chasing? Whether that is a romantic interest, a friend, a family member or even your own child. There comes a moment in time where you need to stop and have more respect for you. Why are you chasing someone who clearly doesn't want a lot to do with you? you are only breaking your heart more than it already was. Stop. Find the strength to let them go to live their life. Will you be in it? With some? No, you won't. With others? Maybe on a very limited basis. There will be others it will be not at all. There has to come a time when you have to stop demeaning yourself and allowing yourself to be made a fool. This week was that moment for me. My heart is broken but it isn't the first time and I'm sure it won't be the last. Will she regret her choices? In regards to me...no, I don't think she will. I am just that unfortunate tie she wishes she could untie. I believe, in her eyes, I'm just the incubator. As much as this destroys me, as her mother...I'm respecting her wishes and I'm letting go. I will not chase her any longer. I will not fight for a relationship. She has made it clear she doesn't want one. I will respect that.
It's a struggle knowing he didn't love me and never did. To find out the things he does now for his wife? The woman who is bigger than I ever was, the woman who has been married multiple times, the woman who is tatted up and he hated tats, the woman who shows jealousy, the woman he won't keep secrets from but kept them from me, the woman who is everything he said he hated in me. Knowing all of this has made me hate him. I know it does nothing to him. It will only eat away at me but that has been happening to me for almost 20 years. I can only now admit that I hate this man with every fiber of my being. When I met him, I was in a good place. I was happy with myself, I had friends, I loved sex and I believed in love. In the almost 2 years I was with him, he destroyed every last bit of me. I know it was only 2 years but in 2 years, he obliterated every bit of who I was. Not a day went by where he didn't mentally or em...