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Last night I had the conversation I don't believe I could have handled almost 2 years ago. I finally got the reason for Darren "falling out of love with me". I became depressed after my hysterectomy and losing my job. He had said when he would come home from work and I hadn't done anything all day, I was still in my jammies, kids were eating mac and cheese and I was on the computer he lost it for me. He did admit that not being supportive of me compounded everything. The man I loved hated me because of something I had no control over. This really should bother me. With all that was said last night...it doesn't. I think in away I already knew it. Him telling me just confirmed it. Am I hurt by it? No. I'm past him hurting me. The problem now...I'm still letting what he did to me with the cybers*x and belittling me control who I am. How do I get my se*uality back and not even think about the horrible things that were said about me? How do I not compare every man I meet with him? Not only in the bad sense but even when our relationship was really good? There is so much more I want to post and I will but before I start crying again...I'll end this one. It's Monday...we all know how I feel about that.

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